Hmmm. What’s on the cards for us all in 2019?
Do you set resolutions or intentions?
I’ve never been much good at keeping resolutions or sticking to goals. I had a bit of an Aha moment when I read this piece in “Intention Setting 101” from the Mindful Minutes blog.
An intention is a guiding principle for how you want to be, live, and show up in the world… But an intention shouldn’t be confused with a goal—it’s not something you attach an expectation or evaluation to. It’s just something you want to align with in your life. It’s an aim, a purpose, or attitude you’d be proud to commit to. [Source: Mindfulminutes.com]
This year I have set intentions.
My intentions reflect who I want to be this year.
How I want to approach life.
This a pretty major year for me what with moving back to the UK to live, taking a ‘self-funded sabbatical’ and essentially starting a new life after 18 years in South Africa.
A new life.
A new way of being Debbie.
I’m ready for 365 or more opportunities to live my life.
That’s the plan anyway.
What needs shaking up in my life this year?
But of course, it doesn’t matter how excited I am about these changes, there are still things that I need to address in my life to be able to take full advantage of everything!
So I asked myself “what in my life needs shaking up so that I can try to align with my intentions?”
I came up with three areas of focus.
They all stem from the way I have been pushing myself for the last 8 years – both personally and work-wise. These years have been intense and have had an enormous impact on my health and well-being.
Before I started this job, I was relatively healthy.
I did not get sick often.
I walked on the beach.
I did yoga.
I had a social life.
I have no social life to speak of.
I’m always at the doctor.
Number One Priority – shake up my health and fitness
I have gotten into such a lazy place over the last few years – I do no exercise except climbing the 50 stairs at work each day. And living alone, my eating habits have taken a tumble too.
Knowing that I’m not good at setting goals and tracking, I just want to be fitter and healthier than I am now. That’s it.
And my method?
I will walk every day, starting with 10 to 15 minutes. Once I achieve that, I’ll slowly increase the time each week. Yes, each week, not each day.
Then, when I’m feeling more active, I’ll introduce some swimming.
I’ll continue my daily home-based yoga practice.
The same goes for my eating.
I’m not planning an overnight revolution.
Just slowly phasing out sugar and carbs and re-introducing loads of veg and fruit.
And I will ask someone in my family to be my accountability partner.
Next on the list – shake up my self-care
One of the reasons for my ‘self-funded sabbatical‘ is to take a break and look after myself. I wrote this back in August last year:
Yes. I need that. Time to de-stress, to get back in touch with my spirit, my inner child. To have some fun, to exercise, eat well and live well. In amongst that, there will be opportunities to explore other avenues and ideas for making a living. Above all, it will be an opportunity to live a simpler lifestyle, a less cluttered life (mostly financially) than what I do now. Pare down my possessions, live more simply – BE not DO. To live on the bones of my arse if I have to. [Empty my cup]
My ideas for self-care are firming up: continue writing my Morning Pages as they bring calmness and immense clarity into my life; meditate; read; spend time alone; re-acquaint myself and spend time with my large extended family living in the UK; go to the library…
But more than that I want to play.
I want to be purposeless.
I want to be nonproductive.
I want to moodle – dawdling and idling away time while letting my mind wander.
Do you want to know a secret?
I do not know how to play anymore.
Everything I do is serious or worthwhile.
What got me here will not get me there.
I need a whole new set of skills. New tools. New practices.
The old ones aren’t working and certainly aren’t helping me change the way I am.
Take baby steps.
Revel in having no responsibilities – no home ownership, no car, no insurance, no job…
Third – shake up my mindset about work and career
I come from a family who works hard – we always have. I have worked hard all my life, pretty much without a break. Most of us do.
But now I want something different.
It is important, no essential, for me not to get sucked into working in a traditional 9 to 5, 5-days a week job before I am ready. I must be courageous and at the same time trust that I will be able to build the kind of career I want. A portfolio career: instead of having a traditional full-time job, your career consists of multiple part-time jobs (perhaps part-time contracts, freelancing, and self-employment).
I do not want to jump into another career that doesn’t suit me or to take an opportunity because it shows up. It’s time to set my own schedule, pace and timescale. Jumping is over-rated! [Empty my cup]
THE JOURNEY AND TRANSITIONS
I hope you will join me on my journey this year. I have a feeling it’s going to be an exciting and interesting one, full of transitions and new experiences. In fact, I will be starting a new series about Transitions later this week!
What would your answer be if you asked yourself that same question: “What needs shaking up in my life this year?”
Leave me a comment and let’s get a conversation going!